Truth be told, the world is a market-place just like Yoruba people believe, we have a cliché in my language, Aye l’oja. In a market, you buy and you sell. If you’ve never learnt to view the world like this, it’s obviously the reason why you just remain in a rat-race. In a market, you make relationships. Above all, in a market, you let your head lead you and let your heart follow. You don’t go to the market to buy gold trinkets when you’ve been starving for 2 days. You love the trinkets but it’s an alternative you have to forego.
Now straight to business, I’m a single boy and in the market, you are a single girl and you’re in the market. I write my list of what I want in a girl. You have your list. I’m demanding and you’re supplying or you’re demanding and I’m supplying. There’s a point where we meet and a price is to be set. Here’s my principle, Tito never wastes resources on a girl that isn’t going to give commensurate satisfaction in cash or in kind. Resources include money, time, airtime recharge vouchers and words. For instance, I never tell a girl I love her if I’m not sure of it. If it turns out I didn’t love her, she’ll be heartbroken and find it hard to trust another man and that way, I’ll be driving up the cost of getting that girl. Inflation sets in. Too many single girls in the market, demand shoots up and supply is low and so on. I wouldn’t spend any of these resources, especially time on a girl who won’t repay. That sounds harsh, right?
Satisfaction to me is full attention (no playing), and ultimately a good family in the future. To someone else, it may be different and include sexual satisfaction. I also appreciate that and many others but I guess sexual satisfaction is a mutual thing, ceteris paribus, so it’s not on my first list. The price for it has been set.
- Price Determination
Now, as a manager and an economist, I’ll ask my guys, if you give 1 hour of your time to a lady, you should desire a commensurate amount of attention and time because you’re supplying high-valued resources. You don’t be talking to a girl and she’s pinging on her mobile. Son, you’re making a loss and when supply is greater than demand, price crashes. Homie, you’re making us lose value all over the world. ALL OF US! Secondly, are you telling me she’ll collect all that money from you and not give a good break down, even if you don’t want a financial breakdown, you should desire more. Give her the money but she should show you proof she is willing to build a home with you, not just get herself some trinkets and move on to the next guy who can pay more. At the same time, do not demand more than you’re supplying. You don’t buy twenty naira chewing gum for a girl and get down into her. You’re spoiling the market, whoever will marry her may not get good value for his investments and if you outrightly abuse a lady, that’s way too much. She’ll probably find it hard to trust another man because you r(e)aped where you didn’t sow. It drives up inflation. The ladies become hard to get and scarcity increases. I mean, look at Oprah, such a vast untapped amount of wealth causing inflation, y’know what I mean.
The bottom line is always make sure that demand meets supply at every point in a relationship, even before marriage. That’s the economics of a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.